FREE WORKSHOP: Why do you say YES when you mean NO?

_ **Are you tired of saying yes when you body screams no? ** _

When we say "yes" but mean "no" we abandon ourselves to maintain connection with others.

Join Ruth & Pauline (both trauma informed Compassionate Inquiry Practitioners) for a free 90-minute somatic workshop to support you in saying “yes” to you!

You will:

• explore where your boundaries currently sit.
• understand the power of healthy anger.
• discover why people pleasing is actually a clever survival strategy.
• begin the journey of moving from automatic compliance to finding your true, sovereign "No".

What to expect:

• Safe Container: A confidential space grounded in the psychotherapeutic approach developed by Dr. Gabor Maté, Compassionate Inquiry.
• Creative Mapping: Use colours and shapes to see what is happening inside you.
• Somatic Visualisation: Notice how a "No" feels in your body, even if it feels uncomfortable.
• Somatic Movement: A physical exploration allowing you to embody your boundary and own your space.

Preparation: Please have your journals, coloured pens, and paper ready.

The Sequel: This free workshop is a stand alone experience and also serves as the perfect introduction to our 4 week deep dive COURSE ‘Why do you Say Yes When You mean No’ starting Tuesday 3rd March 6.30pm.

A little bit about us…….

Pauline Stiles: Certified Compassionate Inquiry Practitioner & Body Therapist

With nearly 25 years of experience as a bodyworker, Pauline has a deep knowing that our bodies hold the unprocessed emotions of our past. Her own journey with trauma began in 2017 when she discovered that 10 years of chronic pain was rooted in CPTSD; today, that pain is rarely part of her life. Having learned to lovingly welcome and inquire into grief, terror, and shame, she now specialises in helping others metabolise emotional and physical pain.

Pauline brings this lived wisdom to her current life, standing firmly in her "no" with an alcoholic ex-partner. By becoming comfortable with her own healthy anger and sticking firm in her boundaries, she models the transformation she offers her clients. She is a dedicated witness for women who have been silenced, guiding them back to the wisdom of their bodies and the safety of their own hearts.

Ruth Veda: Certified Compassionate Inquiry Practitioner, Body Worker & Former Paramedic

Ruth’s path into this work is deeply personal. After years of people-pleasing to ensure she was liked and avoided "being mean" to anyone, she learned the hard lesson that the body keeps the score when chronic hip pain became her daily reality. Through Compassionate Inquiry, movement, and play, Ruth has learned to make conscious choices, discovering that saying "no" when she means it makes her "yes" truly powerful. Even when old patterns of putting others first arise, she now meets herself with compassion and understanding rather than judgment. Ruth is dedicated to supporting others in finding their voice so they can break free from cycles of physical pain and resentment.

_"We would love for you to join us in this space. Through our own journeys with pain and recovery, we are committed to supporting you in finding your voice and learning to stand in your "No". We don't view people pleasing as a flaw to be fixed, but as a clever childhood survival strategy that deserves our compassion; we help you uncover the "Why" before guiding you to the "How," and help you feel that shift in the wisdom of your body." _

Ruth & Pauline